May 14, 2009 Jason

My Life Lanuage: Contemplator

I recently took one of the most accurate personally tests ever (in my opinion). Just to prove its accuracy, I took it in 2003, and took it again in 2009. My primary result was the exact same (but the others were different, probably due to me getting married, graduating college, and being a parent within that time frame). According to the test, there are 7 Life Languages. The 7LifeLanguages™ have three categories, which are: Emotive, Cognitive, and Kinetic. People who speak emotive languages generally respond to life, people, stress, and values first with their hearts, then with their heads and actions. People who speak cognitive languages generally respond to life, people, stress, and values first with their heads, then with their hearts and actions. Those who speak kinetic languages generally respond to life people, stress, and values with actions, then with their heads or hearts.

Many times, what may appear to be management, racial, gender, class, or other diversity issues really ends up being a communication issue. The 7LifeLanguages™ and the Kendall Life Languages Profile ™ can identify the communication challenges and help build effective teams to achieve the maximum efficiency. The goal of Life Languages Institute®, Inc. is to help people (and organizations) reach their full potential through character, communication, and effectiveness.

The most successful way to create a coherent individual and organizational culture is to profile all organizational members from the beginning. By profiling everyone at one time, LLI can provide a directory. The directory lists all persons alphabetically and provides their top three languages and last language with, score, range, and intensity. The directory also includes a summary of the 7LifeLanguages™ with instructions for effectively applying the insights provided by this analysis.

It is important to remember that everyone has a combination of ALL 7LifeLanguages™ at varying levels and intensities.

Because everyone has All 7LifeLanguages™, it is best not to try to predict, guess, or estimate someone’s Primary Life Language. The best way to identify how people communicate is by using the Kendall Life Languages Profile™ (KLLP™).

“The crucial point to be considered in a study of language behavior is the relationship between language and reality, between words and not-words. Except as we understand this relationship, we run the grave risk of straining the delicate connection between words and facts, of permitting our words to go wild, and so of creating for ourselves fabrications of fantasy and delusion.” — Wendell Johnson

For more info and the option to take the test, go to

For those who are not as close to me as others, feel free to read this to grasp a better understanding of my personality. Now, I would tell you all my 7 Life Languages in order, but I’m only going to tell you about my Primary Life Language, which is…CONTEMPLATOR (a high contemplator – 82.8 out of 100 score)

High Contemplators are characterized by being inquisitive, reflective, sensitive, peaceful, calm, complex, and cautious. Your profile indicates that you are a HIGH CONTEMPLATOR.

Rarely is a High Contemplator very extroverted so you most likely prefer a private lifestyle with a few select relationships. You are peaceful, low-conflict situations. You do not likie confrontation and usually will not compete for attention or the “floor” in conversations. If you have to compete to be heard, even if you are an expert on the subject, you tend to remain quiet.

You weigh your words and edit your speech before speaking. This results in more complex thinking, and slower responses. You can be a good listener if you are interested in the subject and not preoccupied. While listening, you may send no visible or verbal signals, seeming to remain rather stoic. After hearing something, you like time to reflect on what was said before responding. You do not generally feel compelled to respond. Usually High Contemplators have very high IQs although you may not tell people what you know.

You can be a good public speaker, but do not like impromptu speaking. You want to plan and think through your presentation, and you want it clear that you are the presenter, such as a college professor.

You are not easily persuaded by others to accept their opinions or ideas. You often do not accept facts at face value but will validate and research on your own to prove or disprove what you have heard or seen. Because of this desire to know in depth truth and facts, you may question other’s statements and positions.

You prefer to structure your time, dividing your life into compartments. You generally like to finish one project before starting another rather than juggling several at one time. You like to focus on a few key projects or relationships at a time so you can give proper attention to each. Too many people and too many activities going on at once can drain you of energy. Yet, you may have many uncompleted projects because your intellect makes you multifaceted, talented, and a jack-of-all-trades you may also be prone to procrastination.

You have well-defined boundaries and only let a few people into your personal or private space. High Contemplators have the greatest spatial needs of all the Life Languages. You need space and time alone to think, reflect, process, procrastinate, or meditate, but you must be careful to balance this with interaction with those you are in relationships with. For marriage, family, or working relationships this spatial need should be discussed and understood so that others do not think you are rejecting them. In addition, you must guard against abusing this need and isolating yourself from others. Others who understand will then be more prone to allow you your privacy and not invade your space if the balance is negotiated in advance. Otherwise, you may be accused of isolation abuse by someone close to you, such as a spouse.

You are intellectual and have good reasoning ability. You are inquisitive and naturally collect knowledge, information, and obscure facts. You tend to be a life-long learner. You do not want to know just surface information, but generally want to know in-depth details, and therefore you will enjoy the challenge of finding them.

Because you have such varied interests, you seldom are bored with life. You are probably quite talented in many areas. Often Contemplators are somewhat nocturnal, and the men more often wear beards than do those who speak other Life Languages.

You are not too concerned or controlled by what others are doing or saying, so you can usually resist peer pressure and social trends. You seem to have the ability to cut through the unimportant, or smoke screens, and have a grasp of what is really important. However, on the other hand, you may do circular, philosophical thinking as well because you think complexly…a perplexing paradox.

You tend to have a somewhat unusual sense of humor that others may not fully understand. Your sense of humor may seem dry, philosophical, complex, or “off the wall.” It may take others time to realize what you meant before being amazed and amused by it. It is also likely some persons will never grasp your humor.

When under stress or distress you may become inflexible, stubborn, prideful, and refuse to cooperate. Although you are not naturally overly sensitive to the emotional needs of others, you are personally very sensitive, and under stress, you may feel hurt, rejected, or angry, but you tend not to show it at the time. You may be prone to express anger passive-aggressively. If stress continues, you may become more controlling and tend to withdraw deeper into your own world.

High Contemplators who have problems with anger, resentment, or unforgiveness often express them in passive-aggressive ways. It might be healthy for you to examine your thoughts and feelings to see if you are dealing with them passive-aggressively. There is a real need for healthy, intelligent, understanding of feelings. As a High Contemplator, you have the capacity to make a quality decision to deal with your thoughts and feelings in a healthy way rather than a passive-aggressive way. When Contemplators are not successful in life, it is generally due to unhealthy passive-aggressive behavior.

Contemplators can bring a peaceful, thought-provoking presence to any environment, helping others to see life differently and challenging management to make decisions based on facts and truth. Contemplators tend to validate the truth. Because High Contemplators generally value the past, they are loyal to friends, family, employers, and traditions. Contemplators generally have few friends, and may not keep in close contact with them, but they tend to be friends for a lifetime.

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